The All-or-Nothing Marriage

How the Best Marriages Work

Author: Eli J. Finkel

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN:

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 352

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“After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now...”—Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Eli J. Finkel's insightful and ground-breaking investigation of marriage clearly shows that the best marriages today are better than the best marriages of earlier eras. Indeed, they are the best marriages the world has ever known. He presents his findings here for the first time in this lucid, inspiring guide to modern marital bliss. The All-or-Nothing Marriage reverse engineers fulfilling marriages—from the “traditional” to the utterly nontraditional—and shows how any marriage can be better. The primary function of marriage from 1620 to 1850 was food, shelter, and protection from violence; from 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around love and companionship. But today, a new kind of marriage has emerged, one oriented toward self-discover, self-esteem, and personal growth. Finkel combines cutting-edge scientific research with practical advice; he considers paths to better communication and responsiveness; he offers guidance on when to recalibrate our expectations; and he even introduces a set of must-try “lovehacks.” This is a book for the newlywed to the empty nester, for those thinking about getting married or remarried, and for anyone looking for illuminating advice that will make a real difference to getting the most out of marriage today.

The Romantic Lives of Emerging Adults

Getting from I to We

Author: Varda Konstam

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN:

Category: Psychology

Page: 272

View: 360

The romantic lives of emerging adults are often baffling and contradictory. While they prize committed and authentic relationships, they appear to be reluctant participants. They prefer to foster ambiguity in their romantic relationships, even as they value honesty and clarity. There is, at once, a valuing of long-term as well as a decentering of romantic relationships. Although our current understanding is incomplete, this text grapples with these perplexing questions. In attempting to understand emerging adults and their romantic lives, researchers must consider the challenging economic conditions in which today's emerging adults find themselves. With an emphasis on commitment and sacrifice and their centrality to one's readiness for a long-term relationship, this book reviews the main milestones in transitioning from an "I" identity to a "we" identity and discusses the concepts of choice and risk. Further, the book examines structures such as asymmetrically committed relationships, cohabitation, and marriage through the lens of commitment, risk, and risk avoidance. Probing extensively into the romantic lives of emerging adults -- their attitudes, values and expectations -- this text examines some of the developmental and contextual realities against which romantic attachment must be viewed. Critical topics such as casual and sexual experiences and relationships, integration of work and love, breakups, marriage, going solo, and social media and its influences are considered. The commonality and the individuality of the emerging adults presented throughout this text contribute to a rich understanding of emerging adults and how they live and love.

Unspeakable Things

Sex, Lies and Revolution

Author: Laurie Penny

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA

ISBN:

Category: Social Science

Page: 288

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Shortlisted for the Green Carnation Prize 2014 Laurie Penny, one of our most prominent young voices of feminism and dissent, presents a trenchant report on our society today--and our society tomorrow, as she is willing to fight to see it. Smart, clear-eyed, and irreverent, Unspeakable Things is a fresh look at gender and power in the twenty-first century, which asks difficult questions about dissent and desire, money and masculinity, sexual violence, menial work, mental health, queer politics, and the Internet. Celebrated journalist and activist Laurie Penny draws on a broad history of feminist thought and her own experience in radical subcultures in America and Britain to take on cultural phenomena from the Occupy movement to online dating, give her unique spin on economic justice and freedom of speech, and provide candid personal insight to rally the defensive against eating disorders, sexual assault, and internet trolls. Unspeakable Things is a book that is eye-opening not only in the critique it provides, but also in the revolutionary alternatives it imagines.

The Future of Marriage

Author: Jessie Bernard

Publisher: Yale University Press

ISBN:

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 383

View: 694

Dr. Bernard examines recent research findings on the present nature of the marriage commitment and predicts a less restrictive role for women in future marriages.

101 Secrets to a Happy Marriage

Real Couples Share Keys to Their Success

Author: Thomas Nelson

Publisher: Thomas Nelson

ISBN:

Category: Religion

Page: 128

View: 913

What can happy couples tell you about having a happy marriage? A lot! It’s no secret that having a happy marriage doesn’t happenall by itself. But there are secrets that help make marriage the best it canbe. Whether a newlywed or married for years, maintaining open communication takesthought, effort, and prayer! 101 Secrets to a HappyMarriage provides words of wisdom and anecdotes from eighty-seven coupleswho speak from real-life experience—ranging three to fifty years—for anyone whoneeds encouragement and proven advice to create a fulfilling and joyfulmarriage. Included are doses of humor and food for thought from bestsellingauthor Harry Harrison for fostering love, peace, and harmony every day for therest of your married life. HarryH. Harrison, Jr. isa nationally acclaimed author appearing on the NY Times and Booksense lists. He has over 3.6 million books inprint featuring titles such as Father toSon, Father to Daughter, 1001 Things Happy Couples Know about Marriage, andmore. He and his wife, Melissa, have been married 43 years

Legalizing Plural Marriage

The Next Frontier in Family Law

Author: Mark Goldfeder

Publisher: Brandeis University Press

ISBN:

Category: Law

Page: 240

View: 265

Polygamous marriages are currently recognized in nearly fifty countries worldwide. Although polygamy is technically illegal in the United States, it is practiced by members of some religious communities and a growing number of other "poly" groups. In the radically changing and increasingly multicultural world in which we live, the time has come to define polygamous marriage and address its legal feasibilities. Although Mark Goldfeder does not argue the right or wrong of plural marriage, he maintains that polygamy is the next step - after same-sex marriage - in the development of U.S. family law. Providing a road map to show how such legalization could be handled, he explores the legislative and administrative arguments which demonstrate that plural marriage is not as farfetched - or as far off - as we might think. Goldfeder argues not only that polygamy is in keeping with the legislative values and freedoms of the United States, but also that it would not be difficult to manage or administrate within our current legal system. His legal analysis is enriched throughout with examples of plural marriage in diverse cultural and historical contexts. Tackling the issue of polygamy in the United States from a legal perspective, this book will engage anyone interested in constitutional law, family law, or criminal law, along with sociologists and those who study gender and culture in modern times.

Advanced Social Psychology

The State of the Science

Author: Eli J. Finkel

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN:

Category: Psychology

Page: 576

View: 828

Social psychology uses clever, even ingenious, research methods to explore the most essential questions of the human psyche: Why do we help some people and harm others? Why do we pay so much more attention to high-powered people than they pay to us? If humans evolved from great apes, why are human selves so much more elaborate? How does our attachment to our parents when we are infants influence the success or failure of our romantic relationships when we are adults? Can behaving morally "license" us to behave immorally shortly afterward? How do social relationships make us more versus less prone toward physical illness? This volume -- an update to the original, 2010 edition -- provides a graduate-level introduction to social psychology. The target audience consists of first-year graduate students (MA or PhD) in social psychology and related disciplines (marketing, organizational behavior, etc.), although it is also appropriate for upper-level undergraduate courses. The authors are world-renowned leaders on their topic, and they have written state-of-the-art overviews of the discipline's major research domains. The chapters are not only scientifically rigorous, but also accessible and engaging. They convey the joy, excitement, and promise of scientific investigations into human sociality.

Rabbinic Authority

The Vision and the Reality

Author: A. Yehuda Warburg

Publisher: Urim Publications

ISBN:

Category: Religion

Page: 341

View: 130

Introducing English-speaking readers to the parameters and scope of rabbinic authority in general, and the workings of the institution of the beit din—the Jewish court of law—in particular, this book presents 10 rulings in cases of Jewish civil law that the author handed down as a member of a beit din panel. These decisions touch on matters pertaining to employment termination, tenure rights and severance pay, rabbinic contracts, issues in the not-for-profit boardroom, real estate brokerage commission, drafting a halakhic will, a revocable living trust agreement, the division of marital assets upon divorce, spousal abuse, and a father's duty to support his estranged children. Accompanying these presentations is an examination of the notion of rabbinic authority, the business judgment rule, and an agunah's ability to recover for the infliction of emotional stress.

All or Nothing

Author: Catherine Mann

Publisher: Harlequin

ISBN:

Category: Fiction

Page: 192

View: 944

"I can't sleep with a man who keeps secrets." Despite the warnings that he would break her heart, Jayne Hughes fell for the bad boy. And Conrad Hughes, casino magnate, did just that with his absences and lies. Now she's ready to move on, but her husband has other plans…. Conrad's undercover work for Interpol destroyed his marriage. When Jayne comes to Monte Carlo seeking a divorce, he launches an all-out assault. Seducing his wife back into his bed is child's play; earning her trust is another matter. Yet Conrad knows the odds favor the house. And he has no intentions of losing.

All or Nothing

Author: Deborah Cooke

Publisher: Deborah A. Cooke

ISBN:

Category: Fiction

Page: 294

View: 262

Some people will do anything for love—even if they have to fake it. Jen Maitland had no use for handsome guys with easy charm—until she met Zach. He's the perfect fake date to end her mother's matchmaking scheme before it starts. Besides, he'd probably just use her and leave her like her ex-fiancé did. At least that's what Jen tells herself. The only problem is that Zach isn't as predictable as he appears… Zach Coxwell hates commitment, but loves a challenge. Like the pretty bar waitress who turned him down flat for a date—only to invite him to her family's Thanksgiving dinner. Zach knows he can make Jen smile—and he's betting that he can unravel her mysteries—even if he has to do it over candied yams. A tofu turkey, a sister who threatens to have Zach's love-child, the untimely appearance of a knitted avocado—and Zach's discovery of her real motive—combine to turn Thanksgiving dinner into Jen's worst nightmare. Zach, on the other hand, has the time of his life. And when he makes Jen smile, he finally finds a commitment he's willing to make…but persuading Jen to believe him will take everything he's got. * * * * The first four books in the Coxwell Series of of contemporary romances and romantic comedies features the four siblings in the family. In December 2018, Christmas with the Coxwells was added to the series. This short story brings us up to date with the family, so the series can continue with the stories of the next generation. 1. Third Time Lucky (Philippa and Nick's second chance, small town romance) 2. Double Trouble (James and Maralys' second chance, mistaken identity, enemies to lovers, and secret baby romance) 3. One More Time (Matt and Leslie's on-the-rocks, second chance romance) 4. All or Nothing (Zach and Jen's fake date, enemies to lovers, holiday romance) 5. Christmas with the Coxwells (a holiday short story) The Coxwells Boxed Set includes the first four books in the series. * * * * contemporary romance, women's fiction, romantic comedy, chick-lit, bad boy hero, fake date, Christmas, Thanksgiving, cancer survivor, knitting, holiday romance, enemies to lovers