Katie was a smart, young, independent woman who thought she knew where her life was headed. Until Calvin showed up. How could she have been so blind? How did a strong, independent woman end up married to an abuser? And better yet how is she going to get herself out.
This is a collection of poems and essays documenting my survival from incest trauma and living in a dysfunctional family. These poems and essays express my deepest feelings of anger, rage and sadness. They are also a testament to all survivors out there that there is hope for all.
"Out of Silence: Repair across Generations "is the story of one man's journey through three generations and five continents to find-and heal-a past he didn't know existed. In 1997, Martin Beck Matu tik made a dramatic discovery at the age of forty: he was the child of a Holocaust survivor. His mother's shocking secret came from the most unlikely of places-shoeboxes full of her literary and personal archives. These dramatic revelations changed his life forever and set him on a path to discover his true identity. His research unveiled his mother's remarkable life-and the truth behind her painful decision to reject her Jewish heritage and keep it hidden from her family. Akin to Madeleine Albright's "Prague Winter: A Personal Story of Remembrance and War, 1937-1948," Matu tik's "Out of Silence "is an intensely personal Czech-Slovak-American Jewish journey into the past to understand the present and find hope for the future. Dealing with self-transformation, loss, memory, recovery, and the unsettling reality of living with multiple identities, Matu tik's exhaustive research and selfless prose offer other children of survivors-and the world at large-a remarkable look inside one man's endeavor to repair the shattered map of his identity. Early praise for OUT OF SILENCE From Shoa to Communist Czechoslovakia to post-Communist Eastern Europe to the very human and often overlooked dimensions of how individuals and communities part and reconcile, "Out of Silence: Repair across Generations" is a powerfully naked, movingly poignant, and courageously liberating portrait. --Lewis R. Gordon, Professor of Philosophy, Africana Studies, and Judaic Studies, UCONN-Storrs; Nelson Mandela Visiting Professor, Rhodes University, South Africa; and EuroPhilosophy Chair, Universite Toulouse Jean Jaures, France Who will stop the resentments of the era of the two twentieth-century beastly regimes? The stories of our fathers and grandfathers? Matu tik's multigenerational drama leaves visible traces. We should not store them in institutional file cabinets. --Fedor Gal, author, journalist, and film documentarist, and a cofounder and chair of the Public against Violence, the movement that in 1989 brought down Communism in Slovakia, was born at the end of World War II in the Czech concentration camp Terezin Matu tik's book is a testimony to all of us who live in the wake of disaster, who struggle with its posthumous or Lazarean dimensions, which is to say, to all of us. --Sandor Goodhart, Professor of English and Jewish Studies, Purdue University After more than twenty-five years bringing works related to the history of the Holocaust and to Jewish culture to the light of print, I can honestly assert we have not read a book which so edifies the theological issues bound up in the history of a family rent apart by war and politics, anti-Semitism and the subsequent clashes of Communist and capitalist cultures. The author's expertise in philosophical and religious studies and his truly advanced perspective in the philosophical and public aspects of his family's journey provide an unusual opportunity for readers follow a memoiristic literary nonfiction narrative while engaging the theoretical and historical issues as well. --Alan Adelson, Executive Director of Jewish Heritage Project, the International Initiative in the Literature of the Holocaust, New York"
Break the silence about male victims of incest and sexual abuse! The pseudonymous author of A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse: The Insiders had everything a man could want: intelligence, physical strength, financial security, close friends, a loving girlfriend, a home in the most beautiful part of California. But he also had mysterious physical pains, a bisexual father who had been beaten to death in an unsolved murder, a mother who was always ailing, a brother who had been killed in a car accident on the way to his eighteenth birthday party. And a sense that all these facts were somehow connected, that there was a secret story that would link everything together. He also had the Insiders. These subpersonalities knew the story. They kept the secrets and held the pain. As he went through therapy, they emerged, told their stories, and helped him face the brutal, ongoing sexual abuse by his parents that had made his childhood a nightmare of terror, shame, and pain. Few male survivors of sexual abuse have spoken out to tell their stories. A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse breaks the silence. Because the author is a trained therapist as well as a survivor, he weaves psychological theory with the biographical material. This unique dual view allows emotional and intellectual comprehension to develop in parallel. A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse also discusses essential concepts in understanding abuse survivors, including: inflating versus deflating abuse the emotional triangle of fear, sadness, and anger post-traumatic decline attachment disorders repressed, recovered, narrative, and procedural memory somatization dissociation, ego states, and subpersonalities This passionately honest book is a unique resource for therapists, abuse survivors, and the people who love them. You will never forget A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse or the brave man who dared to tell the truth about sadistic sexual abuse.
'This book gives insights into the pain and suffering involved when people are grieving for someone who has committed suicide, but it also offers hope without diminishing the significance of the suffering involved. As such, it has a lot to offer, and is therefore to be welcomed.' - Well-Being 'This book provides deep and valuable insight into the experiences of "suicide survivors" - those who have been left behind by the suicide of friend, family member or loved one.' - Therapy Today 'The personal stories are full of pathos interest and will clarify where the death leaves those left behind. The list of self-help groups is world wide and it will be useful that you can point the bereaved and traumatized in the right direction.' - Accident and Emergency Nursing Journal 'The authors describe powerfully the effect of suicide on survivors and the world of silence, shame, guilt and depression that can follow. Author Christopher Lake is a suicide survivor and co-author Henry Seiden is an experienced therapist and educator. They use sensitive and unambiguous language to provide an understanding of what it is like to live in the wake of suicide and the struggle to make sense of the world. They also look at how survivors might actively respond to their situation, rather than being passive victims. This book should be read by any professional who is likely to come into contact with people affected by suicide.' - Nursing Standard, October 2007 'The book is well written and relevant to both survivors and professionals concerned for the welfare of those bereaved by suicide.' - SOBS (Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide) Newsletter 'Silent grief is a book for and about "suicide survivors," defined as people who have experienced the death of a friend or relative through suicide, and for anyone who wants to understand what survivors go through. The book explains the profound, traumatic effect suicide has on individuals bereaved in such circumstances. Using verbatim quotes from survivors it explains how they experience feelings of shame, guilt, anger, doubt, isolation and depression. This book provides good insight into the experience of individuals affected by suicide and can be a useful resource to anybody working with such people - be it prisoners who have lost someone close through suicide or the family of a prisoner following a self-inflicted death in prison. - National Offender Management Service. Safer Custody News. Safer Custody Group. May/June 2007 Silent Grief is a book for and about "suicide survivors" - those who have been left behind by the suicide of a friend or loved one. Author Christopher Lukas is a suicide survivor himself - several members of his family have taken their own lives - and the book draws on his own experiences, as well as those of numerous other suicide survivors. These inspiring personal testimonies are combined with the professional expertise of Dr. Henry M. Seiden, a psychologist and psychoanalytic psychotherapist. The authors present information on common experiences of bereavement, grief reactions and various ways of coping. Their message is that it is important to share one's experience of "survival" with others and they encourage survivors to overcome the perceived stigma or shame associated with suicide and to seek support from self-help groups, psychotherapy, family therapy, Internet support forums or simply a friend or family member who will listen. This revised edition has been fully updated and describes new forms of support including Internet forums, as well as addressing changing societal attitudes to suicide and an increased willingness to discuss suicide publicly. Silent Grief gives valuable insights into living in the wake of suicide and provides useful strategies and support for those affected by a suicide, as well as professionals in the field of psychology, social work, and medicine.
Creating Dialogue Among Jews and Germans, Israelis and Palestinians
Author: Dan Bar-On
Publisher: Central European University Press
The title describes Dan Bar-On's method of using storytelling as both a qualitative biographical research method and as an intervention, to bring people from opposite sides to a dialogue. Such work needs slow pace and long-term commitment, with a special combination of a scientific rigorous analysis with a sensitive approach toward the people one approaches. The book first surveys the author's earlier work in this field, in the Kibbutz, with families of Holocaust survivors and descendents of Nazi perpetrators, bringing the two groups together. However, most of the book is devoted to Bar-On's work with Palestinians, both Israeli-Palestinians and Palestinians from the PNA. Through different settings (working with PRIME on developing a school textbook with two narratives; with refugees; at a University setting with a mixed students group; conducting interviews in Haifa) he describes the hardships of peace building 'under fire', but also the potential achievements of such work.
I am working on healing from the effects of child sexual abuse. I thought up most of the poems while walking in the woods. Nature is the place that I feel the safest now and as a child. I still connect outside better than I do inside. I kept the abuse a secret for 30 yrs. Once my mind started to free the memories, I was flood with them. I would have Flashbacks that word put me back to that age feeling as I did then. There were body memories that made my body feel the way it did when the abuse happen. Some times it would take me days to get over these. They would hit any time and any place. I had help from my doctors, my therapist, medications and even hospital stays. I was diagnosed with PTSD, DID major depression and anxiety disorder. It is full of ups and downs. This as been a rough journey, but one well worth it. This is my journey thru poems and journaling. A journey that is still going. I hope this book helps you on your own journey.
"George Topas' moving and probing narrative is an important contribution to Holocaust literature" - Elie Wiesel "The Iron Furnace is a profoundly moving account of faith, love, courage, and endurance. With his direct and deceptively simple style, George Topas convinces us that we're sharing the heartfelt recollections of an old and dear friend. This story - and this decent, unassuming hero - will leave an incredible impression on all readers" - Michael Medved "The Iron Furnace will greatly contribute to the deepening memory of the Holocaust. It reveals the indomitable spirit of those that lived in the world which was destroyed." - Rabbi Marvin Hier, Dean, Simon Wiesenthal Center "A searing tribute to one man's indomitable spirit to outlive his tormentors" - Canadian Jewish News "This chilling memoir effectively reminds us of the inhumanity with which people treated their fellow humans.'' - Library Journal
Sharing Our Stories of Survival is a comprehensive treatment of the socio-legal issues that arise in the context of violence against native women—written by social scientists, writers, poets, and survivors of violence.