Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life
Author: Victoria Secunda
This, the first book ever to say that mother is not always a girl's best friend, is based on a landmark study of the mother-daughter relationships. Secunda offers breakthrough advice on understanding, and improving, what could be a woman's most critical relationship.
In the 1940s film Now, Voyager, Bette Davis plays a daughter struggling against her mother's stifling repression. Nearly fifty years later, in the Hollywood saga Postcards from the Edge, Shirley MacLaine, as a neglectful and bossy mother, inflicts untold psychological pain on her daughter, played by Meryl Streep. These dramas of conflict and the ambivalent struggle for separation have been central to popular images of mothers and daughters in the last half-century in the U.S. Walters boldly challenges these dichotomies and proposes an innovative and multilayered understanding of the cultural construction of the mother/daughter relationship. In a discussion of popular media ranging from themes of maternal martyrdom to maternal malevolence, Walters shows that since World War II, mainstream culture has generally represented the mother/daughter relationship as one of never-ending conflict and thus promoted an "ideology of separation" as necessary to the daughter's emancipation and maturity. This ideological move is placed in a social context of the anti-woman backlash of the early post-war period and the renewed anti-feminism of the Reagan and Bush years. Walters uses exceptions to mainstream imagery-films such as A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, television shows like "Maude," novels like The Joy Luck Club-to offer evidence of alternative traditions and paradigms. Timely and vividly argued, Lives Together/Worlds Apart makes a brilliant contribution to discussions of popular culture and feminism.
Today's young women are lost. They have more opportunities to seize their independence and realise their dreams than ever before, but they're encouraged to embrace a porn-led culture of riotous drinking and casual sex to the extent that they're in danger of losing the protection and respect of men altogether. Surrounded by lousy role models, loose morals, unrealistic expectations, mixed messages from modern literature and a new wave of feminism that does them no favours, our girls have never been more in need of some good, old-fashioned advice.In her work as a make-up artist in Britain and the US, Zoe Rene has been talking and listening to women for over 20 years; from the girl-next-door to the lady who leads a double life as an accountant by day and a dominatrix by night. Here she shares everything she's learned about our relationships with men (and each other) and sets out to prove that real girl power comes from courage, confidence, quick thinking, and the ability to hold your own in a man's world.
Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
Author: Ellen Fein
Publisher: Hachette UK
Category: Family & Relationships
You are a creature unlike any other (Rule #1)--that's why you need . . . The Rules. A simple set of dos and don'ts, The Rules will lead you to where you want to be: in a healthy, committed relationship. Unlike today's haphazard dating customs, The Rules recognizes certain facts of life. That men know what they want. That a man is either attracted to you--or not! That men want a challenge, not an instant or easy victory. When you follow these commonsense guidelines, you treat yourself with respect and dignity--and demand that men do likewise. Although they sound old-fashioned ("Don't see him more than once or twice a week"), they encourage you to lead a full, satisfying, busy life--outside of romance. Although they seem tough ("Don't talk to a man first"), they will teach you how to accept occasional defeat and move on. And although they require discipline ("No more than casual kissing on the first date"), they will bring out the best in you and in the men you date. The goal? Marriage, in the shortest time possible, to a man you love, who loves you even more than you love him.
A Mother - Daughter Journey of Come Here Meets Been There
Author: Dr. M. Jeanne Dolphus Cotton
Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
Category: Biography & Autobiography
This book will make you giggle and brush away a tear or two as you take a revealing journey into the extraordinary sacred relationship between a mother and daughter. This journey is made more special because it is an adult daughter and mother. As you read the book, it is like eavesdropping into the lives of two incredible women as they share their parallel stories. I recommend this book be read by mothers and daughters together because there is tenderness the mother can share about being young, in love, vulnerable, passionate and private dreams. For the young ladies who are not yet an adult, read this book as a primer to the legacy that awaits you and the relationship you will discover with your mother as an adult daughter...This book is like a great comforter on a chilly night. It makes me long for the adult relationship I never had with my mother who died when I was 11 years old.
The Ten Most Important Things to Talk About With Your Mother
Author: Mary Marcdante
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Category: Family & Relationships
Every woman has things that she wants to talk about with her mother -- but can't. Big questions about health, aging and money, and even more personal issues about family secrets and Mom's relationship with Dad have made for extremely difficult conversations -- until now. In My Mother, My Friend, communications expert and beloved national speaker Mary Marcdante demonstrates simple strategies and time-tested techniques for breaking down the barriers. She shows step by step how to build a more loving and authentic relationship with your mother by looking at such issues as: Health and Sexuality Money Resolving Conflict Family Secrets Spirituality ...And more Drawing from her nationwide workshops as well as from personal experience, Mary Marcdante shows us that these conversations not only matter, but can also be deeply enriching.
Delivering stories that span generations, and offering warmth, wisdom and love on every page - if you treasured Maeve Binchy, read Patricia Scanlan When are the boundaries of friendship pushed too far, and when is it time to stop flying over oceans for someone who wouldn't jump over a puddle for you? There comes a time when Hilary Hammond has to make that call. Hilary and Colette O'Mahony have been friends since childhood, but when irrepressible Jonathan Harpur breezes into Hilary's life and goes into business with her, Colette is not best pleased. After their first encounter Colette thinks he's a 'pushy upstart' while he thinks she's 'a snobby little diva'. And so the battle lines are drawn and Hilary is bang in the middle. But as the years roll by and each of them is faced with difficult times and tough decisions, one thing is clear … to have a friend you must be a friend. And that's when Hilary discovers that sometimes your best friend can be your greatest enemy …
Pairing Nefertiti Kincaid (called Never by everyone) with Averal Ballantine is like pouring gasoline on a raging fire. Fiercely loyal Information Technology Director, Never, is an explosion waiting to happen. Since her company merged with a larger pharmaceutical magnate, she’s watched her friends and colleagues lose their jobs. Now it’s her turn. Her department has come under the scrutiny of management consultant, Averal Ballantine. Immediately attracted to the director, Averal finds it difficult to maintain a business relationship and even more difficult to keep his vow of steering clear of women who cherish hearth and home. Coming from a home that broke under the strain of his brother’s death from sickle cell anemia, Averal feels the trait he carries will prevent him from ever having a family of his own. Yet the sizzle between them is apparent in the boardroom and the bedroom.
From "queen bees" to "gamma girls" to the "odd girl out," adolescent girls are all over the news. But whether a girl is popular or struggling to fit in, outgoing or reserved, her mother worries about how she is coping with her new, often scary, teenage social world: Who is she with, what is she really doing, is she safe and, of course, is she happy? In this essential survival guide, Roni Cohen-Sandler teaches parents to "use their BRAIN"—Be flexible, Respectful, Attuned, Involved, and Non-controlling—to build trust and help their daughters navigate these complex social waters. Addressing such issues as popularity, boyfriends, parties and partying, discipline, privacy, body image, and identity, Cohen-Sandler provides a new model for parenting adolescent daughters for today's generation of mothers.