How to put your child's well-being first in a competitive world
Author: Tanith Carey
Publisher: Hachette UK
Category: Family & Relationships
Mozart in the womb, Baby Einstein DVD's for newborns and i-pad learning apps for toddlers. From the moment the umbilical cord is cut, today's parents feel trapped in a never-ending race to ensure their child is the brightest and the best. But while it's completely natural for us to want our kids to reach their potential, at what point does too much competition become damaging? With constant testing in schools also raising the stakes, how can we tell when hot-housing children is actually doing more harm than good? In this ground-breaking and provocative book, award-winning journalist and parenting author Tanith Carey presents the latest research on what this contest is doing to the next generation. She explains why, far from making our children more go-getting and successful, it can back-fire with life-long repercussions, damage their emotional well-being and fracture their relationships with the very people who love them most: their parents. In this essential manual for today's modern parent, Tanith offers parents practical, realistic solutions that will give them permission to take their foot off the gas and reclaim a more relaxed family life. Packed with insights, experts' tips, real experiences and resources, this book is a timely guide to safeguarding your child's well-being in a competitive world - so they can grow into the happy, emotionally balanced people they really need to be. 'I've hardly been able to put the book down . . . as I turned each page I'd find something else that resonated with me. . . Tanith has the ability to challenge your thinking without it being judgmental or preachy. She shares lots of real life case studies and draws on her own experience as a parent and combines this with solid research to make a really readable book. mummyfromtheheart 'An impassioned book appealing to other parents to rethink all the relentless competitiveness - before it's too late.' Psychologies 'A highly readable, well-balanced, well-argued contribution to the rapidly-growing mountain of parenting books, with plenty of practical, achievable advice for anyone who wants to escape from the tiger race.' Sue Palmer, author of Toxic Childhood 'A fantastic new book by Tanith Carey which gives children back their childhood.' Dr David Whitebread, Senior Lecturer in Psychology of Education at Cambridge University
A Balanced Approach to Maximizing a Child's Potential
Author: Chungsoon C. Kim
Publisher: Seoul Selection
Category: Family & Relationships
Parents are raising their children in a world that is both more complicated and more flooded with information. The cross-generational passing down of parental wisdom from one s own family and neighbors is no longer common practice. Instead, parents receive overwhelming, often competing, advice from books, magazines, social media, and Internet experts. While this abundance of childrearing advice shows society s interest in parenting, it also means that there is no magic formula when it comes to raising children. In this book, I have tried to provide young parents with some guidelines that will help them make sound parenting decisions for themselves. These are based on personal knowledge gained over forty years of teaching and widely accepted theories and reputable research. I also wrote from my own experience raising three children and four grandchildren. What was most helpful in writing this book, however, were the insights I ve gained from my interactions with countless children and parents at the San Jose State University Child Laboratory, where I worked as the lab director. - From the Preface
An international and historical look at how parenting choices change in the face of economic inequality Parents everywhere want their children to be happy and do well. Yet how parents seek to achieve this ambition varies enormously. For instance, American and Chinese parents are increasingly authoritative and authoritarian, whereas Scandinavian parents tend to be more permissive. Why? Love, Money, and Parenting investigates how economic forces and growing inequality shape how parents raise their children. From medieval times to the present, and from the United States, the United Kingdom, Germany, Italy, Spain, and Sweden to China and Japan, Matthias Doepke and Fabrizio Zilibotti look at how economic incentives and constraints—such as money, knowledge, and time—influence parenting practices and what is considered good parenting in different countries. Through personal anecdotes and original research, Doepke and Zilibotti show that in countries with increasing economic inequality, such as the United States, parents push harder to ensure their children have a path to security and success. Economics has transformed the hands-off parenting of the 1960s and ’70s into a frantic, overscheduled activity. Growing inequality has also resulted in an increasing “parenting gap” between richer and poorer families, raising the disturbing prospect of diminished social mobility and fewer opportunities for children from disadvantaged backgrounds. In nations with less economic inequality, such as Sweden, the stakes are less high, and social mobility is not under threat. Doepke and Zilibotti discuss how investments in early childhood development and the design of education systems factor into the parenting equation, and how economics can help shape policies that will contribute to the ideal of equal opportunity for all. Love, Money, and Parenting presents an engrossing look at the economics of the family in the modern world.
A Guide to Raising Healthy, Happy, and Self-Motivated Kids
Author: Shimi K Kang, Md
Publisher: Penguin Canada
Category: Family & Relationships
In this inspiring book, Harvard-trained child and adult psychiatrist and expert in human motivation Dr. Shimi Kang provides a guide to the art and science of inspiring children to develop their own internal drive and a lifelong love of learning. Drawing on the latest neuroscience and behavioral research, Dr. Kang shows why pushy “tiger parents” and permissive “jellyfish parents” actually hinder self-motivation. She proposes a powerful new parenting model: the intelligent, joyful, playful, highly social dolphin. Dolphin parents focus on maintaining balance in their children’s lives to gently yet authoritatively guide them toward lasting health, happiness, and success. As the medical director for Child and Youth Mental Health community programs in Vancouver, Dr. Kang has witnessed firsthand the consequences of parental pressure: anxiety disorders, high stress levels, suicides, and addictions. As the mother of three children and as the daughter of immigrant parents who struggled to give their children the “best” in life—her mother could not read and her father taught her math while they drove around in his taxi—Dr. Kang argues that often the simplest “benefits” we give our children are the most valuable. By trusting our deepest intuitions about what is best for our kids, we will in turn allow them to develop key dolphin traits to enable them to thrive in an increasingly complex world: adaptability, community-mindedness, creativity, and critical thinking. Life is a journey through ever-changing waters, and dolphin parents know that the most valuable help we can give our children is to assist them in developing their own inner compass. Combining irrefutable science with unforgettable real-life stories, The Dolphin Parent walks readers through Dr. Kang’s four-part method for cultivating self-motivation. The book makes a powerful case that we are not forced to choose between being permissive or controlling. The third option—the option that will prepare our kids for success in a future that will require adaptability—is the dolphin way.
TAMING THE TIGER is based on twenty years Buddhist teaching in the West and aims to help anyone seeking the truth about suffering and happiness. The first part of the book deals with topics such as Impermanence, The Right Motivation, Facing the Situation, Body, Speech and Mind, Compassion, and Mindfulness. The second part is devoted to exercises, meditations and relaxation techniques for body and mind, including Feeling, Openness, Taking Suffering, Bringing the Buddha to Life and Universal Compassion. The exercises, designed to provide a base of self-knowledge, mind-therapy and self-healing have also been found beneficial in therapy workshops and in the treatment of psychological problems. TAMING THE TIGER comes from the Samye-Ling Tibetan Centre in Eskdalemuir, Scotland. This long-established community is well-known for its Buddhist teachings and for helping to preserve Tibetan culture. It is also increasingly renowned for its therapy courses and humanitarian activities. In 1992, Samye-Ling bought Holy Island as a retreat centre.
Children who have experienced trauma, loss or separation early in life need more than just special care and attention; they need to be parented with love and security in a way that allows them to heal and rebuild emotional bonds. This comprehensive book provides parents and carers with crucial advice and guidance on how to strengthen attachment and trust. Based on Dan Hughes' proven 'PACE' model of therapeutic parenting, this book explains how to implement PACE techniques to overcome the challenges faced by children who struggle to connect emotionally. Barriers to stable relationships such as a lack of trust, fear of emotional intimacy, and high levels of shame are all explained. It explores techniques to overcome these barriers by teaching how to support the child's behaviour at the same time as building empathy and trust. The practical parenting guidance offered throughout is essential for carers or parents of troubled children, and will help build safe, secure emotional relationships.
Are You Just Trying to Survive in Your Workplace? For many of us, the environment we work in every day can feel like a jungle fraught with danger, pitfalls and calamity. Barbara Bowes knows this all too well and brings her wealth of experience and expertise to help you not only survive, but thrive! By revealing key strategies and coping mechanisms, Bowes will help you successfully navigate your way up the corporate ladder and teach you the skills you need to work effectively with everyone you meet. No one should feel frustrated or stifled and the strategies presented within these pages will allow you to take charge of your career and create positive and lasting change.
America's leading organizational consultant uses common sense and humor to illustrate how to tackle piles of records, correspondence, bills, receipts, family photos, magazines and other papers that clutter our lives.