Ethical Porn for Dicks

A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure

Author: David Ley

Publisher: Stone Bridge Press

ISBN: 0996485252

Category: Self-Help

Page: 160

View: 5047

Our media is filled with confusing, polarizing messages about the dangers of porn, while at the same time sexually explicit images are pronounced in advertising and entertainment. Using a natural question/answer format for people feeling fear and shame about porn use, this accessible, funny, and well-informed book is the first one to offer men a nonjudgmental way to discover how to view and use pornography responsibly. David J. Ley, PhD, is an internationally recognized expert on issues related to sexuality and mental health. He has authored two books, published in the Los Angeles Times and Playboy, and appeared on television with Anderson Cooper and Dr. Phil.

Ethical Porn for Dicks

A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure

Author: David J. Ley

Publisher: Threel Media

ISBN: 9780996485234

Category: Psychology

Page: 160

View: 6535

This book offers men non-shaming ways to understand and talk about how to use pornography responsibly.

Insatiable Wives

Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them

Author: David J. Ley

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Pub Incorporated

ISBN: 9781442200319

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 291

View: 5783

This enlightening work investigates the history, incidence, and causes of a unique sexual lifestyle pursued by increasing numbers of couples. It is called by many names, and lived in a variety of ways by different couples. The most common terms used to describe it are 'hotwife' or 'cuckold lifestyle.' This sexual practice, a form of sexual nonmonogamy, is distinguished from swinging and polyamory in that the husband rarely seeks sexual contact outside the marriage except for participation in group sex with his wife and other men, while the wife is permitted and often encouraged to pursue unrestrained sexual encounters with other men. The author includes interviews and comments from couples living the lifestyle throughout the U.S., and presents the stories in an attempt to determine the history of this sexual practice and its role in society and in relationships. He explores the psychological, social, biological, and evolutionary underpinnings of this uncommon and socially taboo behavior in an effort to make it more comprehensible to those engaged in the lifestyle and those who are just curious.

The Myth of Sex Addiction

Author: David J. Ley

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

ISBN: 1442213051

Category: Psychology

Page: 259

View: 5205

Presents the history and questionable science underlying sexual addiction, suggesting that men take responsibility for sexual choices rather than labeling sexual desire as a force that must be resisted, feared, and treated.

His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting America's PornPanic with Honest Talk about Sex

Author: Marty Klein Ph.D.

Publisher: ABC-CLIO

ISBN: 1440842876

Category: Architecture

Page: 208

View: 6265

Written by Dr. Marty Klein, a Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with more than three decades' experience, this fascinating book contests the common belief that pornography is unilaterally harmful to individuals and our society, addresses common concerns and debunks widely believed myths, and explains how to heal America's obsession with porn by engaging in honest talk about sex. • Provides the only book to discuss and resolve conflicts about pornography without demonizing porn or porn users • Confronts a common source of conflict in marriage and anxiety in parenting—and presents innovative, practical ways to resolve these problems using down-to-earth language • Shows why there's no such thing as "porn addiction," explains why it really matters what we call it, exposes the billion-dollar industry behind this failed concept, and offers real insight and hope for people concerned about their involvement with pornography • Shows how new technologies are always adapted for sexual purposes—making the Internet's application to pornography a technology issue as much as a sexual issue • Identifies—and corrects—the most common myths and junk science about pornography • Describes the politics through which progressive feminists and the Religious Right have wound up in bed together opposing pornography—by re-branding porn from an immorality problem to a public health crisis • Explains how America's lack of real sex education and frank talk from adults leaves young people looking at porn for sex information—and what they're actually learning from it • Explains how America's lack of real sex education and frank talk from adults leaves young people looking at porn for sex information—and what they're actually learning from it • Relieves parental anxiety with easy-to-follow advice on talking with kids about porn, including conversations about youth "sexting" • Appeals to general readers: educators, psychologists, clergy, and social workers; and policymakers, scholars, students, and researchers in psychology, law, public policy, communications, and media studies

Watching Porn: And Other Confessions of an Adult Entertainment Journalist

Author: Lynsey G

Publisher: The Overlook Press

ISBN: 1468315323

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 320

View: 9498

One feminist’s candid account of her unexpected adventure in the world of porn journalism, and her discovery of an industry that is more nuanced than she ever imagined Lynsey G. never imagined that she would ever work in porn, but at 24 years old, with a degree in English literature and an empty bank account, she found herself reviewing the film East Coast ASSault for an adult magazine in New York City. One interview later and it was official: she was a porn journalist. The job was supposed to be temporary—just a paycheck until she could spark her legitimate writing career—but she loved it and spent nearly a decade describing the nuances of money shots and the effectiveness of sex toys. As both a porn consumer and a porn critic, she was not quite an insider, not quite an outsider, but came to know the industry intimately. She found it so fascinating that she co-founded WHACK! Magazine. Finally, she had a platform to voice her thoughts and observations of the adult film world, as well as educate the rest of us about what really goes on behind the scenes. Eventually, Lynsey was thrust back into the “real” world, but not before realizing that one of the most diverse and nebulous—and profitable—industries on the planet isn’t so quite as different from the rest of the world as she thought. Tantalizing, eye-opening, and witty, Watching Porn is a provocative book about an average girl’s foray into the porn industry and the people who make it what it is, both in front of and behind the camera.

Modern Sexuality

The Truth about Sex and Relationships

Author: Michael Aaron

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

ISBN: 1442253223

Category: Psychology

Page: 200

View: 6502

Human sexuality today stands at the crossroads between biological diversity and social conformity, and a battle between the two rages in the media, in social institutions, and in our daily lives. As a sex therapist, Michael Aaron witnesses this struggle each and every day as it plays out on his therapy couch. Modern Sexuality: The Truth about Sex and Relationships examines how biology and society collide head-on in the realm of human sexuality. Here, Aaron carefully and convincingly debunks some of the most commonly held beliefs about sexuality – that it is learned and can be changed; that “abnormal” sexual behavior is pathological; that healthy sexuality involves intimacy; that intimacy is the same to everyone; and that sexuality must have a clearly defined purpose. Using groundbreaking brain-imaging studies and cutting- edge psychological insights, Modern Sexuality presents the overwhelming case for sexual diversity including orientation, non-traditional relationships, and even specific fantasies and kinks. In a world where sexual “outsiders” battle for acceptance, this work helps to explore the variety of sexual expressions from a normative standpoint, helping readers to understand that their own desires and those of others can happily exist on the same continuum.

Sexual Aversion And Sexual Phobias And Panic Disorders

Author: Helen Singer Kaplan

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 131777275X

Category: Psychology

Page: 160

View: 5732

First published in 1987. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.

Making Peace with Porn

Adult Entertainment and Your Guy

Author: Allison Vivas

Publisher: Hunter House

ISBN: 9780897936576

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 182

View: 7147

One conservative estimate says that 100 million people, mostly men, look at porn online every day. Yet for many women, the topic of pornography sparks deep feelings of discomfort and insecurity which can lead to worries or fights about porn's place in long-term relationships. Porn is often seen as a shameful secret, but imagine if you could discuss it with your partner as openly as you discuss the rest of your relationship. Making Peace with Porn author Allison Vivas is a wife and mother, and also happens to run a pornography production company. In a relatable, good-humored tone she incorporates personal stories, clinical statistics, and the history of adult entertainment to explain why porn might not be such a bad thing after all. If you feel uncomfortable with this topic, or just want to know more, Making Peace with Porn is a great place to start a positive discussion. Most books about pornography are negative and fear-based, but this book takes a brave – dare we say, full-frontal – look at why pornography is a regular part of many men's lives, and it will help you find a way to accept that part of the man you love.

Pornography

The Secret History of Civilization

Author: Isabel Tang

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780752217925

Category: Erotica

Page: 192

View: 8175

Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior

Rethinking Sex Addiction

Author: Douglas Braun-Harvey, MA, MFT, CGP, CST,Michael A. Vigorito, LMFT, LCPC, CGP

Publisher: Springer Publishing Company

ISBN: 0826196764

Category: Psychology

Page: 432

View: 3434

Out of control sexual behavior ñ referred to variously as "sex addiction", "sexual compulsivity", and "hypersexuality", among other terms, has been a controversial and attention-getting issue since it first captured both public and professional attention over 30 years ago. Previous discussions of this behavior have been grounded in conceptualizing it as a pathologized, medical issue on par with substance abuse addictions, or, in backlash, as simply irresponsible behavior indicating weakness in the individual. In keeping with the call from many leaders in the mental health and sexual health areas to move beyond these two polarized conceptualizations of these sexual behavior problems, the authors present a model for working with clients in both group and individual treatment settings. Based on their experience with hundreds of clients, this book provides a comprehensive and practical conceptualization of out of control sexual behavior framed as a sexual health problem within a larger model of human behavior, not a psychiatric or addictive disorder. The book includes step-by-step tools for assessment, treatment planning as well as treatment implementation. It describes a process for professionals to guide clients to define and be accountable for their own personal vision of sexual health as the foundation on which they regain sexual behavior control. The authors provide rich and varied composite case examples based on 20 years of clinical experience that demonstrate clinician sexual health treatment conversations and tools, as well as stories of hope and guidance so essential to individuals wanting to understand how sexual health can be the essential ally in changing their sexual behavior.

When I Knew

Author: Robert Trachtenberg

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0060571462

Category: Social Science

Page: 128

View: 6149

When I Knew is a collection of smart, hilarious, and often poignant stories about that revelation for all gay men and women: when they first knew. In this gorgeously illustrated, cleverly designed, and colorful book, acclaimed fashion and celeb-rity photographer Robert Trachtenberg brings humor and style to the EUREKA! moments of more than eighty contributors, including B. D. Wong, Arthur Laurents, Simon Doonan, Stephen Fry, Marc Shaiman, Michael Musto, and more. Also mixed in are tales about when parents knew and when everyone else knew, as well as laugh-out-loud coming-out stories. Readers will fall in love with these anecdotes, from the seven-year-old who looked under the television set to sneak a peek under Tarzan's loincloth, to the inquisitive grandmother who asked her grandson, "You don't like a girl to get married? You prefer a boy?", to the courageous field trip participant who passed up the universal favorite burger-and-fry combo in favor of the fruit plate with cottage cheese. Filled with original art by New Yorker illustrator Tom Bachtell, historical images, and personal photographs from the contributors, When I Knew is a vibrant and witty celebration of that sometimes glorious, sometimes painful, but always captivating moment when everything suddenly makes sense.

Enjoy Sex (How, when and if you want to)

A Practical and Inclusive Guide

Author: Meg-John Barker,Justin Hancock

Publisher: Icon Books

ISBN: 1785780816

Category: Self-Help

Page: 288

View: 7769

Plenty of books on sex suggest that it has to be done in a certain way, or in a certain kind of relationship, or with certain people. This isn’t that kind of book. Enjoy Sex is a truly practical, friendly guide through the confusing, and sometimes alarming, world of sex and sexuality. Its radical approach puts your experience at the heart of the book, and invites you to explore what might be enjoyable to you. With the authors’ engaging and thoughtful style, the book challenges the messages we receive about ‘normal’ sex, looks at how to understand and care for yourself, delves into ideas of pleasure for different bodies, ages and tastes, explores relationships, and tackles the tricky topics of communication and consent. So, throw out the rule book and learn to listen to your own desires. This may just be the most helpful book about sex ever.

Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society

Author: Cordelia Fine

Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company

ISBN: 0393253880

Category: Science

Page: 320

View: 7773

“Goodbye, beliefs in sex differences disguised as evolutionary facts. Welcome the dragon slayer: Cordelia Fine wittily but meticulously lays bare the irrational arguments that we use to justify gender politics.”—Uta Frith, emeritus professor of cognitive development, University College London Many people believe that, at its core, biological sex is a fundamental, diverging force in human development. According to this overly familiar story, differences between the sexes are shaped by past evolutionary pressures—women are more cautious and parenting-focused, while men seek status to attract more mates. In each succeeding generation, sex hormones and male and female brains are thought to continue to reinforce these unbreachable distinctions, making for entrenched inequalities in modern society. In Testosterone Rex, psychologist Cordelia Fine wittily explains why past and present sex roles are only serving suggestions for the future, revealing a much more dynamic situation through an entertaining and well-documented exploration of the latest research that draws on evolutionary science, psychology, neuroscience, endocrinology, and philosophy. She uses stories from daily life, scientific research, and common sense to break through the din of cultural assumptions. Testosterone, for instance, is not the potent hormonal essence of masculinity; the presumed, built-in preferences of each sex, from toys to financial risk taking, are turned on their heads. Moving beyond the old “nature versus nurture” debates, Testosterone Rex disproves ingrained myths and calls for a more equal society based on both sexes’ full, human potential.

When the Body Says No

Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection

Author: Gabor Mate

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 0470923350

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 320

View: 2204

1 The Bermuda Triangle 2 The Little Girl Too Good to Be True 3 Stress and Emotional Competence 4 Buried Alive 5 Never Good Enough 6 You Are Part of This Too, Mom 7 Stress, Hormones, Repression and Cancer 8 Something Good Comes Out of This Is There a "Cancer Personality"? 10 The 55 Per Cent Solution 11 It's All in Her Head 12 I Shall Die First from the Top 13 Self or Non-Self: The Immune System Confused 14 A Fine Balance: The Biology of Relationships 15 The Biology of Loss 16 The Dance of Generations 17 The Biology of Belief 18 The Power of Negative Thinking 19 The Seven A's of Healing Notes Resources Acknowledgments Index

The Men on My Couch

True Stories of Sex, Love and Psychotherapy

Author: Brandy Engler,David Rensin

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1101618876

Category: Psychology

Page: 304

View: 7210

WHAT MEN WANT. WHAT MEN FEEL. WHAT WOMEN NEED TO KNOW. When Dr. Brandy Engler opened her sex therapy practice for women in Manhattan, she got a big surprise. Most of the calls were from men. They wanted to talk about womanizing, porn addiction, impotence, prostitutes—and most of all, love. Her patients were everyday guys from all walks of life. Among them were David, the Wall Street hotshot and compulsive womanizer; Charles, an introvert who kept pushing away the fiancée he thought was too beautiful for him; Paul, the self-made man who visited massage parlors despite his sexy wife; and the men’s group whose stark revelations about male anger and their search for the right woman will open your eyes. In The Men on My Couch, Dr. Engler allows readers inside those private sessions to witness her exciting and evocative encounters with what men desire and fear. Dr. Engler tells her own story, too. At first her patients’ revelations are painful and disconcerting, especially against the backdrop of her own difficult love affair. Yet Dr. Engler lets readers experience how she evolves both professionally and personally, from chagrin to compassion, and reconciles her idealized notions of love and sex with the unexpected and raw truths she hears in the office. The Men on My Couch is unlike books you’ve read before. There are no tired facile conclusions or pejorative generalizations. Here are fresh insights into modern sexual maladies, gleaned from real people having real struggles and experiencing real epiphanies—in the real world. This book will change how both women and men think about love, sex, and desire.

The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn

Author: Violet Blue

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 157344507X

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 160

View: 2786

The secret is out: Women watch porn. A recent study by Glamour magazine found that 87 percent of women ages 25 to 39 enjoy porn as part of their self-defined healthy sexual lifestyles — even more than use sex toys. In The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn, acclaimed sex educator Violet Blue offers hip, friendly, and knowledgeable advice on bringing porn into your sex life: how to find porn you’ll like, from favorite turn-ons and women-friendly DVDs to Podcasts and porn groups on the web; how to reconcile fantasy with real-life desires; and how smart girls can maintain their own beauty standards when the people on screen seem impossibly buff, smooth, and surgically enhanced. Looking for authentic sex scenes? Thinking of sharing porn with a lover? Wonder which browser is safest for internet porn surfing? For answers and insight, zoom in on The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn.

Pucker Up

The New and Naughty Guide to Being Great in Bed

Author: Tristan Taormino

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0061750557

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 272

View: 9135

A veritable buffet of human sexuality . . . . No matter how good you think your sex life is, this book is bound to give you a few ideas on how to make it even better. Tristan Taormino has garnered popular and critical raves for talking unabashedly about every sexual taboo. In Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, she uses her singular voice to redefine the sex primer. Tristan breathes new life into the classics—oral sex, multiple orgasms, and hitting that elusive G-spot, just to name a few—with humor, intelligence, and firsthand expertise. But she also introduces a new set of sexual fundamentals—strap-ons, female ejaculation, erotica, S&M, sex toys, and more—for all those looking to expand their sexual repertoire and improve their sex life dramatically. Quite simply, this is an indispensable guide to mind-blowing, twenty-first-century sex.

Porn Panic!

Sex and Censorship in the UK

Author: Jerry Barnett

Publisher: John Hunt Publishing

ISBN: 1785353756

Category: Social Science

Page: 232

View: 9153

Porn Panic! charts the rise of a new social conservatism for the new millennium, coinciding with the collapse of liberalism as a political force. Unlike the old morality movements, this one is focused on the left of politics. Using the language of the old, liberal left - especially the feminist movement - the new conservatives have set out to rein in pornography, other sexual expression, and free speech in general.

Coming Out Like a Porn Star

Essays on Pornography, Protection, and Privacy

Author: Jiz Lee

Publisher: Stone Bridge Press

ISBN: 0990557189

Category: Social Science

Page: 240

View: 7380

This one-of-a-kind book shares intimate personal stories of porn performers "coming out" to family, friends, partners, lovers, and community. The contributors represent a wide range of races, ethnicities, and genders. They include Joanna Angel, Annie Sprinkle, Betty Blac, Nina Hartley, Candida Royalle, Conner Habib, Dale Cooper, Christopher Zeischegg, Cindy Gallop, Drew DeVeaux, Erika Lust, Gala Vanting, Casey Calvert, Lorelei Lee, Stoya, Ignacio Rivera AKA Papí Coxxx, and many others. Jiz Lee is a veteran porn performer who had worked in over two-hundred projects within indie, queer, and hardcore gonzo adult genres. Lee is the editor of Coming Out Like a Porn Star, and co-editor of the Porn Studies Journal Special Issue: Porn and Labour.