We’ve been thinking about sex all wrong. Mainstream media, movies, and porn have taught us that sex = penis + vagina, and everything else is just secondary. Standard penetration is how men most reliably achieve orgasm. The problem is, women don’t orgasm this way. We’ve separated our most reliable route to orgasm—clitoral stimulation—from how we feel we should orgasm—penetration. As a result, we’ve created a pleasure gap between women and men: 50% of 18-35-year-old women say they have trouble reaching orgasm with a partner 64% of women vs 91% of men said they had an orgasm at their last sexual encounter 55% of men vs. 4% of women say they usually reach orgasm during first-time hookup sex In Becoming Cliterate, psychology professor and human sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz exposes the broader cultural problem that’s perpetuating this gap, and what we can do about it. Pulling together evidence from biology, sociology, linguistics, and sex therapy into one comprehensive, accessible, and prescriptive book, Becoming Cliterate features: Cultural & historical analysis of female orgasm (spoiler: the problem’s been going on for ages) An anatomy section (it’s all custom under the hood) Proven techniques for cliterate sex (it starts with training the sex organ between your ears) A comprehensive final chapter for men (because you don’t have to have a clitoris to be cliterate) By dispelling the lies, misunderstandings, and myths that have been holding us back, Becoming Cliterate tackles both personal and political problems and replaces them with updated outlooks and practical skills needed to change our collective perspective on sex. It’s time to finally inform women and men on how to have satisfying experiences in bed that benefit both parties. The revolution is cuming—and Becoming Cliterate offers a radical, simple solution to progress and pleasure for all.
This practical, evidence-based resource is the first available guide for health care providers and mental health professionals on advising and counseling couples and individuals who are experiencing sexual issues directly related to conception efforts, pregnancy, and the post-partum period. Authored by a noted sex therapist, the book offers providers current, accurate information about issues that can affect sexual activity surrounding pregnancy and offers proven strategies for effective counseling. Providing a helpful framework for assessment, treatment, and when to refer a client to another health care provider, the book examines conception- and pregnancy-related sexual dysfunctions that both men and women may encounter. Underscoring the importance of maintaining a strong relationship between couples, the book is filled with practical guidance for treating both cisgender couples and the LBGT population. Also included are helpful checklists, forms, and patient handouts that can be used immediately. Couple and marriage counselors, nurse midwives, women’s health nurses, and other professionals whose practice includes work with couples and childbirth concerns, will find this book an unparalleled resource. Key Features: Addresses common issues and questions women, men, and couples have regarding sex prior to, during, and after pregnancy Includes relevant information for both mental health professionals and health care providers in a variety of settings Discusses assessing and treating common sexual concerns including approaches to brief counseling Covers fertility issues, painful intercourse, intimacy problems, post-partum depression, reproductive loss, and traumatic labor and delivery Authored by a recognized sex therapist and educator
Helping Couples Overcome Infidelity provides clinicians with tangible, research-oriented intervention strategies that can guide couples through the aftermath of an affair. In the treatment of an affair, there are several key elements that couples need to work through as a team, including assessment, working through the crisis phase, rebuilding trust, acknowledging the pain infidelity causes, repairing relationship issues, creating a dynamic sex life, choosing to stay in or leave the relationship, and forgiveness. This book will cover nine milestones in detail and offer a framework for how clinicians can offer helpful treatment at each step. Also included are case studies of particularly challenging couples that the author has worked with and a section at the end of each chapter on therapist self-care.
The Clitoral Truth goes beyond all other sexuality self-help guides by providing a surprising “inside” look at women’s genital anatomy, and revealing that what is almost universally thought of as a sensitive pea-sized nubbin is, in reality, a powerful, responsive organ system. The Clitoral Truth reveals every aspect of this multifaceted organ and how the parts work together to produce pleasure and orgasm. This frank, frisky, user-friendly guide also delves into the controversy over female ejaculation and explores why so few women have discovered their potential to experience multiple orgasms. It also reports on why so many women of all ages fake orgasms, and it settles the controversy over the G-Spot once and for all. Can’t find your G-Spot? Hey, you’ve got something better! Here are vivid personal accounts, a savvy, in-depth survey of female sexuality resources, and the bold and explicit illustrations of San Francisco artist Fish. The Clitoral Truth surveys the numerous ways that women have begun to transform the deeply entrenched male-centered model of sexuality to actively redefine it by emphasizing full-body pleasure. And, likely, better orgasms!